Seventh Commandment Resources

Below you will find some resources and recommendations from the Elders on the Seventh Commandment.

Riverside’s Position on Divorce and Remarriage – a document from the elders that clearly lays out what the church thinks about divorce and remarriage.

Should we get married? – a document that is helpful in walking through a couples decision to marry.

Book Recommendations*:

You Can Change (Tim Chester) – on divorce and remarriage
Second Class Citizens (Mike Braun) – on divorce and remarriage.
The Enemy Within: Straight Talk About the Power and Defeat of Sin (Kris Lundgaard) – this is a modernized, condensed version of John Owen’s Mortification of Sin.
This edition of that one is awesome—it edits down some stuff and updates some language—Lundgaard is short and super practical on defeating temptation.
How People Change (Tim Lane and Paul Tripp) – not for the person struggling with the sin (although it’s good), but for someone who’s helping someone else walk through sin and temptation. More foundational/biblical stuff (and less specific application) than Lundgaard, everyone should read this.
Finally Free: Fighting for Purity With the Power of Grace (Heath Lambert) – this one is specifically about overcoming pornography from a biblical counseling perspective.
Sexual Detox: A Guide for Guys Who Are Sick of Porn (Tim Challies) – brief but thorough. The key benefit of this one is that it is only 100 pages long.
When Your Husband Is Addicted to Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart (Vicki Tiede) – help for the grieving, betrayed “innocent party” from a biblical counseling perspective
Is God Anti-Gay? (Sam Allberry) – written by a same-sex attracted, evangelical, celibate Anglican priest. Goes past homosexuality and into the deeper cultural problems with making our identities all about our sexuality. Brief but thorough.
Talking Points: Transgender (Vaughan Roberts) – another one from a same-sex attracted, evangelical, celibate Anglican priest. Also brief but thorough.
The Meaning of Marriage (Tim and Kathy Keller) – a staple for anyone who is married.
What Did You Expect?: Redeeming the Realities of Marriage (Paul Tripp) – for sustaining and improving average-to-not-so-great marriages
Marriage Matters: Extraordinary Change Through Ordinary Moments (Winston Smith) – A book recommended by the Christian Counselling and Education Foundation. More practical than Keller.

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